I love being part of a couple. And now that I’ve made that bold and definitive statement, I need to parse it just a bit (a lot?)
I’ve spent many years of my adult life living alone in deep joy and contentment. If I count up the years, I’m pretty sure I’ve been single more often than not. And it has been a choice.
And now I am choosing to be part of a committed couple. The obvious reason, of course, is that I love this man deeply, truly and dearly. I am ready for the first time in my life to be in 100% – not 99.9 – actual 100.
Why? It’s who he is. It’s about honesty, authenticity, sharing values, wanting to share the highs, the lows, and the grand adventure. He speaks to my soul as no one ever has.
I love the little things about being part of a couple: the phone call for no reason – just to share a bit of news. I like knowing that someone out there in the world cares about me – cares that I am safe. And I like caring in the same way. Is he safe and warm from the storm?
Most of all (and to sum it up) it’s about connection – connection at the deepest level imaginable. This connection is the kind that takes me out of myself, shows me the bigger world that is present in nature, in our souls, in the best part of who we are. This is the connection that makes me want to be a better person. It calls me to be authentic, kind and loving – to embody all the best parts of me. And it calls me to actively , consciously choose this relationship every single day.
To choose it. To choose this life. Scary. Empowering. Fulfilling.
How lucky I am to get to choose this.