To think how lovely that was yesterday – when today I am sitting here in the pouring rain. Happily though, it wasn’t raining when Paul and Julie and I did the Cable Bay Trail – so, lucky us!
Really, lucky me all day long – I got things done although at times it felt like I wasn’t making any headway at all. But I am, one bit at a time. I’ll spare you the details: suffice to say that I am making lists, ticking items off and then making new lists. My day timer is being thoroughly used – and that includes the days I am blocking off for hiking – like tomorrow when we go up Green Mountain.
But back to the subject of love. I was fortunate to see it in action today – fortunate to be with two people who clearly love each other very much and are working to make it work. I have faith in them. And yes, sometimes love is hard work, especially when we’re older. Um – wait – no – it’s also work when we’re younger.
When we’re young, we don’t have any experience and make a ton of mistakes – and we often don’t have sufficient knowledge to draw on that sorts things out when conflict arises.
When we’re older, we often have too much experience and we get triggered by past relationships. Either way, it takes determination and commitment to put in the work and the time to make it work. Imagine! Two people from different backgrounds and with entirely different experiences, deciding to join their lives together and live together in love and harmony. It’s a pretty tall order when you think about it. It takes guts to make that commitment and there’s no point in making it unless you truly love each other and like each other. Shared values are essential.
But I believe the key to success is love. If you love unselfishly – truly love, you’ll overcome the fears, you’ll be brave enough to engage in communication (which includes really listening), you’ll examine your own thoughts and emotions and you’ll put in the time and effort to make it work.
When you love someone, you’re not looking for what the other person can do for you, you’re looking for ways to make them happy, for ways to make their lives better. When you love, you want to contribute to their spiritual growth. Together, you create an entity called “a relationship” and you feed it and nurture it. You create a safe space to come home to.