I know I’m not alone in this – I know that we all make assumption – and almost all the time they are wrong.
I know better than that – and yet, I still do it. It’s interesting how, when I do check out the assumptions I make, they are usually quickly nixed and I feel so much better.
And why is it that when we do assume things, especially with people we care about, that we almost always assume the worst rather than the best? Really? Why?
Sure, we can probably trace it all back to childhood, but gosh, I do so with that we humans could be de-programmed as easily as we are programmed.
I think there is still hope for me, but, I’ll tell you, it’s an ongoing project.
It’s really as simple as, “We need to talk.” I mean, really, doesn’t that phrase strike fear into the hearts of the bravest? Why assume it’s about something awful? And even if it is, surely it can be discussed and handled.
Or when someone doesn’t call: maybe they are running late somewhere?
I’m working on it. What I am working on even more, is checking in with the person I am assuming things about. I believe that is the real key. Just ask. Keep it simple. Keep the lines of communication open. I think that’s the secret.